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Patriarchy Is an Institution to Be Outlawed
By Kamla Bhasin
In early December 2013 I received a call from Swaraj, a Karnataka wide network
of women’s groups, fighting against violence and all forms of discrimination
against women, to invite me for a function to felicitate six rural women who
have challenged the oppression of widows in their families and villages. They
asked me to speak on Patriarchy as a Superstition. I was amused by this
formulation and asked them why this topic. They said the government of
Karnataka was planning to bring a new law against superstition and they want
patriarchy to be declared a superstition and outlawed. I smiled whole heartedly
and said, WOW. What a great idea!! Once again I marveled at the wisdom of
working class rural women. I wondered why in spite of such wisdom of rural
working class women, so many media people think feminism is an urban phenomenon.
As I started thinking on this topic, I was convinced that patriarchy is
indeed just a superstition with no basis in reality or in the law s of Nature.
Actually, so many other man made systems like caste, racism etc. are nothing
but superstition. The word for superstition in Hindi is Andh Vishwas., blind
belief. Superstition is something which has no basis. It is illogical. It has
no basis in natural law. Yet superstitions can be as powerful as patriarchy or
caste system in spite of the destructive nature of these blind beliefs. One can
once again see that if we repeat lies all the time they become the truth.
Mother Nature gave women the special responsibility and power of carrying new
life and caring for it by breastfeeding. Because of this I suppose, Nature made
women biologically superior. For millions of years women and men lived together
as equals. Because of their special power, women and Nature were worshipped all
over the world. Then suddenly, a few thousand years ago when humans developed
private property and weapons to control Nature, animals and other human beings,
man created systems of class, caste and patriarchy. From equality human beings
moved in to all kinds of inequalities and hierarchies mainly because of the
development of private property.
Let us look at patriarchy more closely. Post patriarchal religions created
all kinds of superstitious beliefs like Eve was created from Adams rib,
Brahmins were created from the head of Brahma etc. Natural laws were put on
their head. Men, who are unable to create from their bodies, were declared to
be the Creators, the heads of households, the inheritors of private property
and family names. Hinduism said only sons can do the last rites. Jainism said
only men can achieve Nirvana. One lie after another repeated for centuries.
Because they were lies, they had to be repeated everyday through rituals like
karwa chauth, mundan for boys, kanya daan, father giving away the bride amongst
Christians, four marriages and more property for men in Islam and I can go on
and on.
As to the power of these rituals, even I did not wash my hair on a Thursday until I was 24. In our Punjabi
community Thursday is called Veervaar,
or brother’s day. We were told if sisters washed their head on this day,
something bad will happen to their brother/s. Since I loved my brothers I
followed this superstition until Feminism dawned on me. Of course there was
never a day on which my brothers did not wash their hair for their love for me.
I think the time has come for us and our leaders to think and
decide if we believe in our Constitution or in the superstition of Patriarchy
or Caste. We cannot believe in both. Therefore, it is indeed time
to remove these superstitions from our personal belief systems, from our
families and communities and then declare them illegal. If we accept and
respect the Indian Constitution, then words like Pati, Swami, Jajmana. Mijazi
Khuda (all words for husband in different Indian languages), even the word
husband which means controller, manager, domesticator (remember animal
husbandry?)should be illegal and abandoned. Practices like Kanyadaan should be
illegal and abandoned. Unless we do these things in our personal lives the
Constitution cannot be implemented. This is why we feminists say the
Personal is the Political.
Kamla Bhasin: http://www.equitybd.org/notice_board_contain/pssarc_bd/Kamla_Bhasin.pdf
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